Recently, the popularity of books
such as 50 Shades of Grey has brought
sexual dominance into the focus of mainstream sexual thought. Sexual dominance
is a preference rather than an orientation, the latter term being more apt to
describe homosexuality or bisexuality. Some people are occasionally sexually
dominant but not always so and other people are what are called lifestyle
sexual dominants, which means that they are almost always inclined to take the
dominant role during sex.
If this is something that you and
your lover are interested in exploring, such as a woman writing in The
Frisky detailed, it’s not something you should feel weird about. There are
plenty of sex toys geared toward this type of sexuality and, just as the name of
the popular book indicates, there are vastly different degrees of sexually
dominant. Some people are incredibly demanding of their lovers and seek out
lovers who enjoy partners who have that quality. Other people aren’t so much dominant as they are very clear about what they want
and have an ability to make it apparent that they intend to get it. No matter
where you fall on the spectrum, this is a perfectly normal, healthy style of
sexual play that can be worth exploring.
